Whew!

Today was a day for the books! Whew again!

I need to shout out to Bridget and Mari Ann. I cannot thank either of you enough for your support and great advice yesterday and today.

To catch everyone up, I ended up having a meeting with my union rep, my boss and his boss. HR could not make it.

So I laid all my concerns on the table and it was clear to me that my hunch was right, my boss was not honest with me and his boss did not know half the stuff I thought he was aware of.

Anyway, long story short, his boss assured me my position is not going away.

They seem to be parting it out, but now that the union is aware, its safe for now.

The best part was when I mentioned that the only reason I am being discounted is because of my age, everyone sat up a little straighter.

More blah blah blah, and then she, the union rep flat out asked them what my career course will be!

Man did they back track and squirm.

I think I accomplished a few things!
I let them know I am serious about my job.
I am going to protect it.
We are watching them.
My boss has been exposed as the liar he is. That was the other best part.
And I am not afraid to use the union now. Heck I might become a steward!

I feel better! I hope there is no backlash. But feeling like I have sone protection.

Oh and I didn’t cry!

When the rep and I left the office, I pulled her into a conference room and shed a few, because that is way way WAY out of my comfort zone! But I was determined not to cry in there!

She said I was organized and professional! I just stuck to my list and the facts! I didn’t get personal.

Again thanks for your kindest and support! You guys rock my world!

So guess what? Its raining now!

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So I made some tea:

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I could use something stronger! (I still haven’t tried the alcohol free white.) Will post when I do. πŸ‘

But instead grabbed my fur baby and off to watch Better Call Saul! Its pretty good!

I am drained!

Whew again! Whew!
Xoxo
Debtgirl

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13 thoughts on “Whew!

  1. Soooo happy for you and proud of you!! I cry when stressed as well – guess it’s a girl thing! Wish you could hear the conversation between your boss and his boss!

    • Hi Sandra! OmGosh I know! The door was closed and they were in there still when the rep and I came out of the conf room. Oh to be a fly on that wall. I know that something was exposed. Not sure what it means but I do feel like it has been set right for a bit! It all depends on my bosses boss. I hate it when tears flow in situations like that! If I were younger I don’t think I could have contained it, I just kept telling myself it would not add anything but embarrassment! Xoxo

  2. I’m so glad that your meeting went so well! You deserve to feel really good about yourself. I cry when stressed too so you and Sandra sure aren’t alone. Congrats at getting through your meeting and holding that in.

    • You, me and Sandra! Thank you! It was not easy! It’s just important not to go there because I think you lose credibility. Plus I am a sniveling idiot when I cry. I am dang proud! See good things like finally holding in the tears happen when you get older. Sure felt on the verge but rep said she couldn’t tell. 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸. Until after. She said it was just release! I really liked her!

  3. At seminars I have attended the speakers have said that the best way not to cry in a meeting is to start doing math in your head (higher level multiplication table for example) – didn’t believe it until i tried it and it worked!

      • Thanks Vesta! It was tough but necc. He has been blowing smoke for years. Thing is, I really liked him and trusted him. i felt lucky to have him, until things just did add up. Too mant empty promises for too long. Then he started skirting the issue and passing the buck. I knew something was wrong. It prob wont make much of a difference but now Know for sure. Four more years. He will be gone sooner as he is older and has been there 35 years!

  4. Good for you!! I can imagine how hard that must have been. Too bad HR wasn’t there, too. Hopefully, you won’t feel too much backlash from your boss, for exposing him. Good that you have the union to protect and represent you. Hopefully that was the kick in the butt they all needed to get things going in the right direction.

  5. So happy for you. Those meetings are *hard* and can be really intimidating – especially if you’ve never done it before.

    As for retaliation: it can happen, but it’s also illegal. Interestingly, a lot of people can lose a suit based on the underlying discrimination (e.g., age, sex), but win on a retaliation claim.

    • It was difficult but I did feel prepared! Thanks to you!! Xoxo

      I think I am safe and actually I feel like I can just calm down now and do my little job until I retire and be fine with that. Its not the best financially but who needs the stress!

      You rock!

      Xoxo

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